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As it’s the month of love and relationships, I’ll be sharing more reflections on relationships, how we show up in them, what makes them feel safe, and where we sometimes lose ourselves along the way.

This post is for anyone who learned t

Anger is not a character flaw. It is a built-in boundary defence.

For many of us, especially if anger was shamed or punished in childhood, the nervous system learned that staying attached was safer than staying authentic. So we pushed anger down, sm

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The end of the year places extra pressure on a system that may already be holding more than it can process.
For many people, November and December don’t create new stress - they simply make the existing load harder to ignore.

You might notice

The end of the year has a way of revealing what we’ve been carrying.
For some people it shows up as exhaustion.
For others, old patterns resurfacing.
For others still, a sense that they’ve been holding too much for too long.

This week, I

When you keep fighting for someone who treats you poorly,
it isn’t weakness.
It’s a wound.

A part of you is trying to rewrite an old story -
hoping that this time, if you try hard enough,
you’ll finally get the care you didn’

If you apologise for things that aren’t your fault…
If you feel tension rise in your body when someone seems upset…
If “sorry” comes out before you even think -

your nervous system may be in a long-term fawn response.

What if we scroll not just to escape feelings -
but to escape the work of feeling?

No discomfort.
No decisions.
No emotional effort.
Just a feed that never asks anything real of us.

It’s easier than sitting with what’s hard.
Easier than

Send this to a man who might need to hear it.

#MensMentalHealth
#BreakTheSilence
#ItHelpsToTalk

We talk a lot about red flags -
but learning to recognize green ones is part of healing too.

Safety often feels quiet: steady presence, honest repair, curiosity instead of control.
It’s not dramatic - it’s regulating.

What would you ad